He was so beautiful
Thank you for asking me when I’m making a new album or when I’m touring next.
For people who keep up with me regularly on social media or listen to my podcast / live radio show these are not new answers but for the rest of you: I don’t have any plans to record an album or do a traditional tour at the moment. That doesn’t mean I won’t. Of course I will again at some point - but after 18 years of recording, touring, promoting etc I’ve taken a side road to explore other fun things that might lead me back in to the studio. Just not today.
What are the fun things I’m doing?
I’m working on a one man show. A sort of confessional autobiographical cabaret / stand up kind of intimate thingy whatsit with songs from my career thrown in. I don’t know what to call it. All I can tell you is, it’s very honest and hopefully inspiring. It is not a traditional pop concert but it’s not theatre. It is essentially my life in my songs. A piano player, some stories, some pictures, some laughs some tears. Yes, I know that’s technically a 2 man show but you get the drift. If it turns in to something I like I will try to perform it for you. If not it’s been a fun ride. There are plans for it but I don’t want to be locked in to anything so that’s the truth. When there are live dates associated with it you’ll be the first to know.
Oh. I’m writing a memoir. It is the basis for the ‘one man show’ above. It may only be that. Just the basis of a show. It might be a stand alone book. It might be only a book and never a show. It might never come out. Who knows? The point is that it’s therapy. Are you sensing a theme here?
I’m also hosting a weekly live radio podcast where people can phone in and chat to me. It is not cool. It is not hip. It is meant to inspire you. It is usually me talking to someone who has lived an interesting, brave or inspiring life and has a story I believe is helpful for others to hear. I talk about what is going on in my life, and I talk to you. It’s not meant to be anything more than something from my heart and the intention is to do something for free that helps people and helps me. It is inspiring to other parts of my life and it makes me happy. I feel like a natural at it. I don’t know if I can always do it - every Tuesday at 10 am is a commitment for anyone and the minute it either becomes impossible to keep up
or stops being fun I’ll probably stop. But at the moment it is do-able and so much fun so there that is. Visit www.blogtalkradio.com/darrenhayes or search for ‘talk talk talk wtih darren hayes’ in podcasts in iTunes if that’s your thing. If your thing is cool hip pop culture reviews and sound effects and musings on celebrity it is probbly not your thing.
What else am I doing? I’m studying sketch comedy at The Groundlings School in Los Angeles. It’s improv. It’s unscripted (duh) and that means it’s sort of terrifying. And I love it. It frees me. Much of it is designed to help me with ‘One Man Show’.
I’m also studying acting in a class in Los Angeles. Again I love it. It frees me and much of it is designed to ask the question if I’d like to walk through other doors. I don’t know what it could lead to but I’m open to anything. Even if it means it just informs my recording career. All of the above are leading nicely towards the one man show and for that I’m glad I’m stepping out of my comfort zone.
I am not giving up on music.
I’m just including more things as well as music.
That’s what I’m doing.
I’m also concentrating on happiness. I am in the pursuit of more joy in my life. I’m completely in love with the idea of the law of attraction and the notion that we create the lives we see. Like every wonderful thing that has ever happened to me in my life, I’m realising that if you have love in your heart and a pure intention, you can put your dreams out to the Universe
and it will deliver to you. That also means if you have fear, dread or a feeling that the world just constantly craps on you - that also is delivered to you. It’s a huge responsibility to accept that maybe the world you live in is the one you create but it’s also extremely liberating. Try it.
That also means I tend to turn away from a lot of negative thinking. I want to do things and say things that lift the conscious collective rather than join in the rabble of criticism which we can all be a part of. Now more than ever I see the difference very clearly between a glass half full or empty. I realise it’s all a choice and I’m just choosing to see a world that is overflowing. As Albert Einstein said “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.” I am choosing to believe we are living in a universe that is motivated by love. When I think that way I see myself in a world that raises me up and doesn’t take me down. It’s true, even on days it doesn’t feel like that. I take that ‘up’ness out to the world and shine it back and it’s one happy love fest all ‘round.
I realise the truth to that is simply your perception. Your choice. It’s all just an illusion anyway, right? So why not conjure up something magical?
Anyway that’s my trip. That’s what I’m on. Hope that makes sense!
“Freaks are called freaks and are treated as they are treated – in the main, abominably – because they are human beings who cause to echo, deep within us, our most profound terrors and desires.”
Wally and I have had ups and downs like any great friendship. Dogs go through stages of development, physically and socially, in very similar ways to humans; and their relationship with us changes over time like all relationships do. I look back at my first meeting with Wally and I realise I had idealised him purely as a cute fury toy. A cute puppy with big eyes that I directed all my neediness on to. A sympathetic face to absorb all my emptiness. He seemed to lap up. I had projected all of this on to him from a photograph I’d seen but the reality was, when he arrived in my house I was so not prepared to be a dad.
My hero. Top photo by Lynn Goldsmith.
A friend asked me if I had any suggestions of amazing places to eat during their visit to London and I put together this list. Since I wrote it I figured I might as well share If you’re ever on a holiday there and have saved up some money to spoil yourself. These are some of my favourite places..
Lovely typically low key but high end British gastropub food in Notting Hill
A hybrid restaurant with fashion concept store.
It’s the Hands down my favourite brunch in the universe. Get the french toast. Oder the scrambled eggs to share. OR both. IT’S ASTOUNDING.
They do incredible lunches too.
ON THE SAME STREET IS
Bill Grangers - Granger and Co.
Famous Australian chef doing very simple bistro food but to an incredibly high standard on an amazing lovely part of Notting Hill called Westbourne Grove
Bill is also famous for his eggs - but honestly everything is amazing. Service is a bit casual.
Do either a ‘high tea’ (amazing posh scones, pastries sandwiches etc) or simply go for breakfast lunch or dinner.
Posh fabulous seriously stiff upper lip proper British food. A haunt of many famous people. Annie Lennox’s favourite place.
The Abbeville Kitchen
It’s a very casual but very modern restaurant that Time Out magazine described as ‘Confident St John-style British cooking with a few other European influences at an understated Clapham eatery.” What that means to me is it’s French / British meat heavy bistro inspired greatness with many many different influences. Be warned there are some very non-vegetarian elements on the menu but incredible vege ones as well. Best desserts in town all made a few stops down at their sister bakery.
It’s ‘south of the river’ but don’t let you put that off. I lived ‘south of the river’ for 5 of the very happiest years of my life and it’s only now this isn’t my ‘hood I’m sharing it publicly. Besides, this restaurant was awarded Time Out’s ‘best neighbourhood restaurant’ award in 2012
The lecture room at Sketch
The most incredible meal I’VE EVER HAD IN MY LIFE. Be warned it’s sort of stuffy and pricey but it’s Michelin starred - completely OVER THE TOP and expensive but an EXTRAORDINARY AFFAIR. One of my favourite ever food experiences. The entire building is an art installation with many rooms and things to see. You pee inside a massive egg for god’s sake. What more could you want?
Hotel Costes Paris
If you have time GO TO PARIS - get on the Eurostar, stay at the Hyatt Madelaine and go to dinner for one night only at Hotel Costes
The sexiest and most incredible place in the world. Seriously.
Really REALLY great coffee - Monmouth Coffee in Covent Garden